How many suicides do there have to be in a family until it is a problem?
In myself, I find a need to base my identities on physical traits. E.g. I’m a selkie, and I know this because I have webbed fingers and toes. In others, I don’t expect this, and I think all identities are valid. Double standard much?
It’s why I don’t exactly identify as otherkin. I don’t get mentals shifts (unless they’re forced, and even then only partially). I just get meta-parts. So, for me, that means I don’t think I am an otherkin. But everyone else has different standards about what makes them identify as an otherkin, which are all valid.
So, um, this seems like a silly question. But I was in a shamanic workshop on Monday where we went to meet our current power animal. And, well, I really think mine looked a lot like a Mesohippus or a Hyracotherium except with slightly different markings (still stripes, but centred more on the hind quarters).
Is it possible to have a prehistoric mammal for a power animal? Or am I just getting confused? An okapi was present later (different journey), but it didn’t feel quite the same as the other one. The size is a lot better for the Meso aand Hyrac.
Sternberg’s Love Theory
The more you know…
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Yes I did mean that. Sorry. I wonder that too however, when I listen to some spoken word poetry it strikes me as more truth than just poetic license and I feel like I must be missing out on something. Personally I’ve decided it’s enough for now because I haven’t known anything else however, I have no idea what the future will hold. A part of me feels bad about it because if I ever find that passion in someone else then have I’ve been unfair to my current boyfriend because I didn’t end this sooner. Then again we already live together so it’s kind of a difficult situation to get out of, considering.
I think we’re in almost the exact same situation when it comes to this. I live with mine too, and are in the process of moving to a different flat, which makes me wonder what I’d do if I broke up with him.
I don’t think I’m being unfair to him by not ending it because there is no passion - we are, I think, happy. Not sad, anyway. He’s happy. I’m generally content. And there is no one right now that I know whom I could forsee passion with or have passion for.
Someone I could see close romantic bonds with, but they’re, for various reasons, unavailable.It’s things like this (what this discussion has been about), that make polyamory seem more and more like a sensible option. That way, it wouldn’t fall on one person’s head to fulfill all our wishes from a relationship (intimacy, companionship, passion, etc.). But, in my case at least, he has made it clear he couldn’t be in a polyamorous relationship (at least, not one where I could have relationships with both women and men), and right now there’s no one else I would/could want to include (romantically at least. Though maybe it’s because I’m not looking).
Grahr, why are relationships so confusing?
Oh indeed. I myself have brought up the polyamorous topic because lately it has made the most sense to me however he is completely against it even if I were to only have relationships with females. I understand where he’s coming from because of past experiences however I feel like the best way to grow, to evolve is to leave yourself open to more than one person. If that makes any sense at all. I have no one in mind either that I would want to be involved with and I don’t even like the idea of actively seeking other relationships. Right now my boyfriend and I are living with my mother and we are planning to get our own place once either of us get a job. We do seem to be in the same situation on a lot of levels.
Yes - leaving yourself open to more than one person seems to be a good way of exploring different parts of yourself without pressuring one person to accept them all.
For example, fairly recently I’ve found I quite like biting, myself and others. But my boyfriend doesn’t like it at all - he has a low pain tolerance, and thinks I’ll end up taking a chunk out of myself one day (I’m not even sure if my teeth are able to do that :P). So, if we were in a polyamarous relationship, then I would be free find someone with which to explore biting with. However, as it is… not so much.
I haven’t even brought up the idea fully yet, but whenever he catches me reading something about it, he mentions things like ‘please don’t sleep with other guys’. I can understand his position - being insecure, any other person involved could seem like a threat. I don’t know how to bring up to him, basically, what I read in Ethical Slut. I haven’t even managed to read it in front of him yet.
Hmm.
Sorry if I seem like I’m whining - I’m not (or I try not to). It’s just good to have someone who understands.
My only thing is, everything has a language, otherwise there would be no survival unless the literal otherkin was solely solitary.
Yes, I suppose actually. Everything has a communication system certainly. I meant by language a communication system like human’s - with set grammatical rules, and some other things that are used to differentiate it from other animal’s communication system.
I hope I won’t regret tagging that kin behaviour post.
So I was thinking again, how many of my posts begin with ‘so I was thinking’? Also, I was wondering about what by kin’s behaviour would be, if it were a literal animal (as opposed to a construction made from the meta-limbs I feel and the probably non-human parts of my psyche). I’m going to refer to this animaly thing using ‘it’ or ‘they’ (for the plural) for the remainder of this post, as I am trying to describe it as if it were an animal I had physically observed (gah, this is confusing).
